Homebirth, like most of alternative health, is about two things. Not mother and baby; don’t be silly! It’s about defiance and denial.
Homebirth especially is about defiance. Women routinely risk their baby’s lives — the greater the risk, the better — while flaunting their transgressiveness before their peers. That’s why there are so many Facebook groups built around the specific complication they are defying. Groups like Ten Month Mamas and its secret section.
Hi everyone! This group was recommended to me because I am currently 44+2. I’m excited to look through the posts and see if I can find some like minded support.
If she was looking for like minded, self-absorbed idiots, she came to the right place!
[pullquote align=”right” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]The mother piled risk factor on risk factor until they eventually crushed the life out of her baby.[/pullquote]
The group is headlined with a typically moronic quote from killer pretend midwife Gloria Lemay, who has more deaths to her name than anyone even knows.
Attending births is like growing roses. You have to marvel at the ones that just open up and bloom at the first kiss of the sun but you wouldn’t dream of pulling open the petals of the tightly closed buds and forcing them to blossom to your time line.
Awesome advice for gardening. Idiotic for childbirth. That’s because for every week beyond 40 weeks that babies stay inside the womb, the risk of stillbirth rises … and rises … and rises. The risk of stillbirth doubles at 42 weeks, triples at 43 weeks, and continues to rise beyond.
If you wanted to use a gardening analogy, you might analogize to plants that get root-bound. Both the root-bound plant and the postdates baby grow beyond the size of their sustenance. It both cases they sicken and eventually die.
In the world of homebirth, more complications and greater idiocy are worth more atta-girls. One week after her initial post, Mom informs the group that in addition to extreme postdates, she’s added on prolonged rupture of membranes. Why not? She’s already had an unassisted pregnancy (no medical care by anyone) and plans an unassisted birth (no medical care by anyone). Mom gets her atta-girls.
But wait! There’s more. There is meconium in the fluid and Mom thinks the baby is transverse! More atta-girls.
Finally, three days later, the mother consents to induction!
But as she knew, the baby was already dead.
On July 28th [my partner] and I brought Earthside our sweet Angel baby. We discovered her heart had stopped beating before birthing. Unfortunately we had to say Goodbye in the same breath as Hello and were able to bring her home in our hearts, but not our arms…
Who could have seen that coming?
Anyone with a shred of common sense.
Unassisted pregnancy and birth have appalling rates of perinatal mortality. Postdates increases the risk of death, Prolonged rupture of membranes increases the risk of death. Meconium increases the risk of death. Transverse lie increases the risk of death. Put them all together and what do you get? A dead baby!
But as this mother piled risk factor on risk factor until they eventually crushed the life out of her baby, she was cheered on by women who are so privileged that they have forgetten that childbirth is dangerous and so immature that they think defiance marks them as authentic.
This baby did not have to die. She was killed by her mother’s choices and the group of like minded fools who supported her.
